FROWNING

YKIOK - for those that do not know, this stands for 'Your Kink Is OK, It's Just Not My Kink', and whilst this is supposedly the way members of the kink community (if there is such a thing!) are meant to think, it is patently clear that for a lot of people it is only when it suits them!

I read a thread on a BDSM forum last night where someone asked about a specific kink, one that I have an interest in. There was the occasional sensible reply but the vast majority of the thread was taken up by people doing no more than either taking the piss or saying ewww in one form or another. Reading the thread was like watching a bunch of six year olds in a playground making fun of the boy with the new spectacles. For a milisecond, I thought about logging in and posting a response but decided that the idiots were not actually worth a single second of my time.

It's a different story though if anyone dared to post a negative comment relating to some kink activity that they participate in - all hell would break loose and the YKIOK grenades would be lobbed into the arena!

Sometimes, I believe that that kinksters can be far more intolerant, insensitive and mocking than non-kinksters. And of course they can also be very elitist, looking down their noses at those who, they feel, have inferior or slightly bizzare fetish tastes compared to their own. Or if you are not part of the 'fettarati' then you are simply not worth bothering with.

None of us are perfect, we all have an ick factor. Certain BDSM or kink activities make us uncomfortable or we simply do not see the turn-on in doing them. But the majority (I hope) of us do not deride those who want to do those things, we do not laugh at them or make fun of them, we keep our negativity to ourselves and simply accept that each is entitled to their own. Or at least the grown-ups do!

And I am suddenly starting to remember why I stopped going to fet events!